Modes of dancing inconsistent with tradition have made inroads into chasunah dancing (primarily after the first dance). To be honest, it is not limited to dancing. One no longer hears the meaningful songs of yesterday (Pirchei, MBD, Avraham Fried, etc). Rather, the multiple piece bands serve up a cacophony of loud music with no taam or rei’ach.
In my yeshiva, it is well-known that when the chosson invites the rosh yeshiva for siddur kiddushin, the chosson is told that the rosh yeshiva will be happy to be mesader providing that the music and dancing is “vi es flegt to zein.”
It’s not clear why this matter has not been discussed. Hopefully, after being discussed on Matzav, the matter will now get the attention it rightfully deserves.
Brisk Feeder, USA