I recently heard a radio program that interviewed the noted therapist, Mrs. Yael Respler. She was asked if the shidduch crisis is as bad as people make it out to be. Her answer was terrifying. Not only are there thousands of boys and girls of marriagable age not married, but in the city of Lakewood alone, she said, their were 29 divorces this past year. The reason she gave for such a huge number was that people who are getting married are doing so for the wrong reasons. It is either for money, looks or yichus, and has nothing to do with compatability.
I would like to add that I think some of these failed marriages were done out of desperation by parents who can’t deal with the pressures of shidduchim, especially if they have a few children lined up in a row. They then take the first person who says yes to them. This is the sad reality.
And the reality will continue until things change drastically. We are headed in a dangerous direction.
A Concerned Yid
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