As an elementary school teacher, I have had a few students whose parents divorced. I don’t ask why the parents divorced or if it was a good decision, as I accept my students for who they are, and I try to give them as much warmth and love as I can.
Divorce is difficult on children. Very difficult. I must say, though, that I’ve observed that the children of divorced parents who behave amicably towards one another have a much easier time adjusting than those who fight. The divorce hurts the children. Fighting after the divorce makes it so much worse. They can’t even cope.
I cry myself to sleep when a little child dejectedly tells me how his Daddy said his Mommy is a vampire. Or worse, when a student cries about not being able to see his Daddy because Mommy won’t let him go. And he can’t even cry at home, because Mommy will get mad!
Parents, please, please, please stop fighting. Please allow your children the warmth and love of their Mommy and their Daddy.
A Caring Teacher
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