A shidduch was recently made in a chassidic community in chutz laaretz. Shortly after the shidduch was made, the chosson discovered he had a serious illness. It was thankfully caught early, and a series of treatments was able to cure him.
The chosson‘s family went to the family of the kallah and offered them to back out of the shidduch – they would understand and not hold it against them or bear a grudge.
The kallah, surprising everyone, said that she refused to back out of it, as such a disease is not up to him. She could back out, find a new chosson, and who knows what will happen with him and how long he will live?
The chosson’s family were happy to hear this, but they still insisted she back out. They said that her agreement to continue is because of her sensitivity, but she really has the right to, and she should, back out of the shidduch.
Not being able to come to a decision agreeable to everybody, they decided to go to the bais din of Rav Shmuel Halevi Wosner, the Shevet Halevi, in Bnei Brak. When Rav Wosner heard what the case was about, he was so amazed that they would bring such a case to be debated that he said he insisted on sitting in the panel of dayanim hearing the case, despite not having done so for a long time already.
The families flew to Eretz Yisrael and appeared before the bais din, led by Rav Wosner himself.
Each side present told the story and their perspective. Rav Wosner then said that because the kallah is healthy and the chosson went through the terrible experience of the sickness, clearly the shidduch was not made with the knowledge of the sickness in mind, so the kallah has the right to back out without any second thoughts.
The kallah got up and asked if she is obligated to dissolve the shidduch or if she can simply if she wants to. Rav Wosner answered that of course she is not obligated to back out, and if she insists on continuing with the shidduch she would be allowed to.
She said that if that is the case, she wants to continue the shidduch, but that she wants him to bless them that the shidduch should be successful and that the chosson should have a long and healthy life.
Rav Wosner broke down crying and said that a kallah like this “does not need my bracha. I don’t need to bless you, but I want you to bless me that I should live long and merit to continue disseminating Torah.”