We, as a frum community, are ruining our children’s lives and futures when it comes to shidduchim. The main reason that there is a shidduch crisis for the past few years is because we are greedy for money and honor and will not let our children go out on any dates with those who are not well-to-do or have yichus. That means that our good kids who sit at home at the age of 21, 22, 23 and up and are not yet married are sitting and waiting until the prince charming or princess charming comes along – with all the money and yichus of course.
Then people are all surprised that there is an increased percentage of divorce in the community. And people are surprised that all the families who are not well-to-do or don’t have yichus are still sitting and waiting for the right one to come. Well, it’s no surprise.
Stop taking so long to investigate every shidduch that comes your way. Sometimes it can take a few good months of investigating until a parent will allow their child go out with a prospective shidduch. Please stop this. You are wasting your child’s time and future. Stop being foolish. Give your child the freedom to make his/her choice…