Driving southbound on the FDR approaching the Brooklyn Bridge. The right lane is backed up. My einikel tells me, “Zaidy let’s go in the left lane and cut in at the end; everyone does it. We are going to be stuck here 15 minutes.”
I responded with an incident I had with my Rosh Yeshiva many years ago. I was in the yeshiva camp for the summer and many bachurim would take off the tzitzis when playing basketball (so the tzitzis shouldn’t get sweat wet). When the Rosh Yeshiva saw me without tzitzis, he called me over and said a “uniform is not a shulchan aruch; just because they are dressed like bnai toirah, doesn’t mean its right”. Fun dir mant men mehr.
Too often bnai torah improperly follow the standard, poik chazi mai avid ama debar. What’s good for the goose may NOT be good for the Gander. If someone iz angezapt mit toirah mitvos and maasim toivim; vas yener tit maint garnisht. Like the Rosh Yeshiva said, vas fadert men fun mir.