Firstly, I’d like to thank you for your wonderful website. It is obvious that you and your moderators try very hard to maintain a high standard and try not to publish items or comments that are not in line with our Torah hashkafah. I am sure I express the sentiments of others when I say thank you for a job well done.
I am writing with a problem I have. There are several people in my shul who talk during the course of davening on Shabbos. I am a very tolerant person and usually look aside when it comes to other people’s problems, issues or challenges. But in this case, these people make noise week after week. Amazingly, one of them is busy shushing his kids at different points of the davening, but at other points he seems to feel free to talk as loud as he wants. It’s funny how this guy seems to have opinions on everything in the world, and always knows the right way to look at things, but he surely doesn’t know the right way to look at talking in shul.
I am not a kanna’i. I don’t tell people what to do. I hate shushing people. It’s just not who I am,
But I do feel that if someone wants to talk in shul, let them whisper. Why do they have to yell? It’s not fair to people like me. I am not even coming from a frum standpoint. I am coming from a peace-of-mind and headache standpoint. I don’t come to shul to hear you having a conversation with your friend. Want to talk? That’s your problem, but whisper.
Someone in the shul has tried to tell these people to be quiet. I have seen their reactions, and they weren’t pretty, which is what prevents me from approaching them. The rov has tried. I believe he has given up. And because of the realities of the shul, which I cannot get into, he can’t throw them out. Nor can anyone else.
To be clear, these aren’t bad people. In fact, they are pretty decent people. But the talking-in-shul issue is a problem.
Why do I do?
Flustered in the Pews