Shidduch crisis “activists” bombard us with propaganda, including here on Matzav, claiming that we cannot just rely on bitachon in shidduchim, but, rather, hishtadlus mandates that we address the “shidduch crisis.”
Some of these activists have compared it to doing proper hishtadlus for parnassah and not just relying on bitachon.
I fail to see the parnassah analogy. This seems to imply that if someone else doesn’t do something about the shidduch crisis, then I didn’t do my hishtadlus. Every person is required to do his own histadlus for his own situation, and indeed every girl goes into the shidduch parsha doing all the hishtadlus she can. She will meet with shadchanim, network, etc. The rest is in Hashem’s Hands.
Perhaps these “activists,” who are trying to manipulate what goes on in other people’s lives, can explain here on Matzav why someone else’s hishtadlus is mandated for my shidduch. I am not aware that this goes into hishtadlus.