Rav Nachum Stefansky, the author of Aleihu Lo Yibol (OC 257), shares a conversation (paraphrased below) he had with Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach zt”labout men cleaning for Pesach.
Rav Stefansky: For many years the whole concept of cleaning for chometz for Pesach has been bothering me. The women spend a great deal of time cleaning and it is not only for chometz but mainly for dust and dirt.
Rav Shlomo Zalman: The Shulchan Aruch says not to make fun of this practice.
Rav Stefansky: The last few years I feel that because of this cleaning regimen I have not had time to learn enough and prepare myself on a spiritual level for Pesach.
Rav Shlomo Zalman: You personally need to clean the minimum required according to halacha in order not to be oveir the issur of chometz. In general, the women take care of the cleaning, so let then do as much as they please, however they please.
Rav Stefansky: But she wants me to help her!
Rav Shlomo Zalman: For shalom bayis it is permissible to be mevatel Torah.
Rav Shlomo Zalman added: The minhag to do a thorough cleaning is very worthwhile. We see that the Torah was very makpid on even a drop of chometz. The more cleaning you do, the more you internalize the fear of the issur of chometz.